Comments on: What’s the Most Helpful Thing a Therapist Has Ever Told You?

By: Capucine

Capucine — Mon, 13 Feb 2023 23:06:34 +0000

In reply to Amy.

This quote instantly shone a blazing light on the choice I need to make for my eleven year old son, who is drowning and now newly diagnosed with the particular flavor of autism-with-ADHD that runs in my family.

I know exactly what to do, but I don’t want to do it. And for the last two YEARS this decision has been squatting in the back of my mind, with me unwilling to make a choice, because I know how upset he will be.

“Choose the right pain” absolutely connects; between continuing the way we have been that has shredded everyone’s nervous system, or changing diet and movement habits that will cause major freak out for a long stretch but give him maximum physical support…it’s so simple, looking at it, which one feels right to me.

By: Alejandra

Alejandra — Fri, 10 Feb 2023 18:10:14 +0000

In reply to Emily.

Wow, Emily, it’s like you knew I needed to read this for my 6 and 4 year olds. Thank you!!!

By: Lena

Lena — Fri, 10 Feb 2023 05:04:57 +0000

In reply to Mara.

@nikki but what if with the new partner they’re the person you always wished they would be, just couldn’t be with you at the time? This is what gets me!

By: Leandre

Leandre — Thu, 09 Feb 2023 17:49:19 +0000

While discussing ongoing challenges I was having with family members, my therapist said: “You have all the evidence you need to know what to expect from them. They are unlikely to change, but *you* get to decide whether you keep showing up.” It was so liberating to let go of the energy I was putting towards hoping they would change and instead put it towards deciding how I would engage (or not).

The more I think it about it, that isn’t dissimilar to “both things can be true”. In the end, I decided that I wanted to keep showing up because I wanted my children to have a relationship with their grandparents AND I didn’t expect them to be different than they were.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 08 Feb 2023 05:49:29 +0000

Well… reading this, I realize I need a new therapist. She’s nice, but… too personable. And, probably not as helpful as I need her to be.

I realize that’s not a positive, but reading this, and the comments made me see that there are good, helpful ones out there. Thank you…

By: jorel

jorel — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 18:00:21 +0000

When working on anxiety and spreading myself too thin, she asked, “what would happen if you didn’t raise your hand?” i’ve always volunteered for everything because i trust my accountability and like being helpful, but it doesn’t always have to be my responsibility. let someone else have the opportunity you may be unintentionally taking.